I’m going to make this short as I possibly can.
my two cents
I am a straight woman in North Carolina who has voted against Amendment One for some deeply personal reasons. If you’re planning on voting for the amendment and have any questions about those reasons, please e-mail me at: sarah (at) (my Twitter username).com. I promise that I will never preach at you about how you should vote, but I’d like to tell you my story, one-on-one.
If you live in North Carolina, today is the day our state votes on the state constitutional amendment called “Amendment One.” It was designed to make it illegal for gay couples to marry in this state. That’s not what it does. Here are some things you should know:
– This is the language of the amendment: “Constitutional amendment to provide that marriage between one man and one woman is the only domestic legal union that shall be valid or recognized by this state.”
– For the record: Gay marriage is ALREADY ILLEGAL in North Carolina. This is a constitutional amendment that is so poorly-worded and vague that, if passed, will have drastic unintended consequences on ALL unmarried couples and their children.
A “FOR” vote will do the following:
1. Ban civil unions & strip domestic partnership benefits — for ALL couples, not just same-sex couples. If you don’t support gay marriage or gay unions or whatever (for any reason) this is not the way to show it.
2. Eliminate health care, prescription drug coverage and other benefits for public employees and children receiving domestic partner benefits.
3. Threaten protections for all unmarried couples in North Carolina.
4. A child of an unmarried parent could lose their health care and prescription drug coverage, putting the child’s health at risk.
5. A child could be taken away from a committed parent who has loved them their entire life if something happens to the other parent.
6. Amendment One threatens existing child custody and visitation rights that are designed to protect the best interests of a child.
7. Amendment One bans all other legal relationship recognitions—prohibiting North Carolina from ever recognizing civil unions and domestic partnerships. Thousands of North Carolinians rely on these legal protections. Removing these rights creates far-reaching and long-lasting harms for families from all walks of life.
8. Amendment One would interfere with protections for unmarried couples to visit one another in the hospital and to make emergency medical and financial decisions if one partner is incapacitated.
9. Strip domestic violence protections from single women (and men!).
– This isn’t just theoretical — In Ohio, the passage of a similar amendment meant relationships other than marriage were no longer recognized under domestic violence statutes. Ohio’s choice to enshrine a similar amendment into their constitution meant that domestic violence statutes protecting unmarried women were unenforceable until the state’s Supreme Court unraveled the legal mess some three years later.
In the meantime, dozens of batterers were released from jail, and cases were thrown out of court simply because abusers were not married to their victims. This put unmarried women and their children in danger.
– The language of NC Amendment One is even more vague than that of the Ohio amendment.
For more information, please visit payattention.me.
Please, please, please: vote AGAINST.